The other night I was on a mass Zoom call with the author of White Fragility. The group sponsoring the call was Women for Biden, and from the nature of the questions I’m guessing most of the several hundred participants were white suburban women like me. One of the questions for writer Robin DiAngelo was how to deal with racist comments made by others. The speaker said the first step was to recognize your own racism. As in, stop trying to take the speck out of your neighbor’s eye when there’s a big fat log in your own, even if you’re very, very sure it’s the other way around. She said we…